Spilt Milk

Hello and Happy October queens!! Man where has the year gone lol??? Seems like yesterday we just brought in 2017 now it's time to do it all over again! Well Fall is finally here and October is very special to me... October 15. 2016 I married my best friend, MVP and Black Superman, Jadien. There’s only one man who could have me like this before walking down the isle...

Mood: AYYYYYYE It’s about to be lit!!

To then...

Mood: Wait... hold up, hold up what!!!!? Are we really getting married!!? *sheds tears of joy and overwhelment lol*

Lol... none the less it’s been such a great year! 10.15.16 was the first step and we keep on steppin’! I’m so excited and looking forward to what the future holds for us. #FinancialStability #travel #babies *in that order Lord lol*

In other aspects of my life this year hasn’t been the best year... Now don’t get me wrong there’s been really great moments! I accomplished some things this year that I never thought I could but I’ve had some lows too. See “When you're feeling your worst look your best” blog post for the crazy start to my year. However it wasn’t until about 3 weeks ago I realized I have a problem. Other than being a shopping addict, I struggle with adulting! Like really bad lol... when I say that I mean in a financial perspective. I’m really great at having a great time and making sure others are having a great time but when it comes to handling my adult things it’s an after thought. Like it takes a police warning or an accident to scare me in to taking care of my business. My husband tells me too... "babe we need to get this taken care of..." but once again it's after the fact. I’ve spilt hella milk this year!

Once I realized this *it only took me 28 years to figure it out* I went home and said “babe I’m so sorry!! I’ve been a huge set back for us!!” His response, “it’s okay. You just have to learn to invest in long term happiness instead of settling for short term happiness.” Those words really shook me to my core and sticks with me whenever I don't want to "adult".

This past week I spilt even more milk... just when you’re trying to do good and change your ways. I was in a serious freak accident. Like car door gone all because I was unaware and not as mindful as I should be. Once again upset because this is yet another set back. But you can’t cry over spilt milk. It happens, you figure out what went wrong, how to fix it and for next time learn to be more mindful.

So from now on I want to invest in self care, a better quality of life and long term happiness. I feel like there are certain areas of my life that bring me anxiety that used to not take me to that place. So to invest in wellness and self care I’m taking Bikrim yoga aslo known as hot yoga. I need an outlet to first off breathe lol and to release! I’m a busy person with a million things going on, like literally... but only Kandis can take care of Kandis. I also love to take care of others! But I cant do that if my self care, discipline and stability doesn't come first. Just remember that no matter how bad or how dark things may seem you can’t cry over spilt milk.

My hopes for this post is that if there is anyone else out there like me who realizes there are some things in their life that have to change I hope this speaks to you for the better. What are some remedies or therapeutic actions you take when life hits you!? Leave them in the comments section below!